When we first found out the exciting news that we were having a baby, we were exhilarated but petrified. For the first few months we held the secret between ourselves exchanging smiles and secretly making plans behind closed doors. After our first scan, we were ready to share the news with our family and friends who were equally as excited as we were.
Soon, we realised that the ‘it’ll be alright’ approach that we take to most things perhaps wouldn’t wash with this project and we decided we needed to seek advice. Not one to warm to social situations with complete strangers, I set about using the power of Twitter to find an antenatal class that would suit us. I’d done my research and listened to Kirsty Allsopp’s views but both Kate and I had decided to be objective and when we came across ‘Expecting’ based in Stafford we were pleased and relieved.
Kate made the initial call and explained what we were looking for and about our (my) apprehensions. Freya, Expecting’s creator and I suppose mother, took the call and immediately settled our fears. She was welcoming, friendly and, as a practising and experienced midwife herself, she knew exactly what we were looking for – she could probably hear the tone of ‘first time parents’ in Kate’s voice. We booked on and didn’t look back.
Expecting offers a frank, funny, friendly, relaxed, comprehensive, supportive and damned useful journey into labour and beyond. Our class ran on a Monday evening for two hours over a period of weeks. Each week we learned different aspects of the labour and birthing process from knowing the signs of labour to the different options for pain relief. Both of us were made to feel like valued members of the group and we met some lovely people who we have kept in touch with. Freya gave tips that helped us through the birthing journey and beyond. Perhaps even more special for us was that Freya was on duty on the ward when Xanthe was born so we were super pleased to see a reassuring and friendly face who knew us and all about our fears and wishes.
We would highly recommend Expecting. None of the copious books we read could have prepared us for the experience of three days of labour, the birth or the mine field associated with helping a baby to feed but, after completing Expecting classes, we felt that little bit more reassured that we wouldn’t be beaten by it!
You can find out more about Expecting by visiting their website.